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Day 13,752 - Review of 9 Steps to Build a Life of Meaning.mp3
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Hey gang, Kevin here.
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And we're doing one of them late night podcasts.
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But it's been a long time coming because I actually realized that I hadn't.
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I had done an interview back in May that was released in June, or it was in June, and I released it in July.
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And it was with Mr.
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Rick Walker, who ran for governor against Dan Crenshaw.
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I believe it was 2016.
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Anyways, I interviewed Rick, a phenomenal guy.
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I like his book.
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It was very good.
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I read his book.
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I got an early release of it.
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We discussed it in our interview podcast, which was released back a while ago, and you can check that out on the channel.
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I knew I needed to review it and I hadn't actually done a formal review because I did the interview and life happens.
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And so I ended up just also buying it on Audible because it's just the easier way for me to listen to it.
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So I ended up listening to the book for the second time and I had just recently finished it.
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And before it got too far out of my memory, I needed to do, I finished it like, oh geez, I think I finished it on my drive out to Connecticut for Thanksgiving.
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So, you know, so we're like a week.
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But I still have notes and screenshots of things that I had read when we did the actual book review.
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Like when I was actually like listening to it.
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And so I had to take, it was one of those things.
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You just take the PDF that they send you and you listen to it in their like audio reader.
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It's like you can read the digital form.
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I had a hard copy.
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I still have a hard copy.
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I believe it's up on my mantle with.
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all my other hard copies.
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But it was one of those things I just hadn't gotten around to actually reviewing the book.
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So that's what we're doing today, guys.
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So his book is Nine Steps to Build a Life of Meaning.
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I've got it pulled up on Audible just so I can give like some chapters and stuff like that.
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There's an accompanying PDF, so if you get it on Audible, highly recommend.
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Doing the Audible version, it's just so much easier with people on the go, people in my generation, you know what I mean?
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Like you're just boom, boom, boom, especially if you're a go-getter.
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If you're just like at home and you just, you know what I mean?
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Like you don't have as much going on as somebody like heaven, then, you know, listen to the book in, you know, in your own head as you read it.
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So, but it's 9 steps to build a life of meaning.
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And
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If you have the audio book, it is a six hour and 51 minute listen on normal speed.
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It is it's made-up of a bunch of chapters where he kind of describes where he where he came from, you know, just like how he came to be.
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And that's as the introduction goes.
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As the book starts, there are
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I believe, if I remember correctly, he starts the foreword with him being in a group of people that he sat on a board with.
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And some people that were amongst his circle had been kidnapped by terrorists.
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And they sent the video to them with, I think it was a cutoff ear or a thumb or something like that.
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And then the video was him being beheaded.
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And it was like, whoa.
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and he's like, there's really terrible people in this world.
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And you need to figure out where you stand in this world.
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And that is a lot of what the book is about.
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It is self-help, self-betterment, choice-making, decision-making.
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He lays out nine steps.
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I do like his approach.
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I'm not going to say that the nine steps are for me or for you, but at least listening to them, taking them in.
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And you can
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you can make those choices.
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And a lot of times, a lot of choices in life, the better choices are the harder choices.
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And it's not always the path.
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The path, what was it?
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The path of least resistance is not always the path worth taking because the life we're not worth fighting for is not life, life's not worth living.
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I mean, we're going down a whole Rd.
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of cliches here.
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So he gets me, I think it was,
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She said, I believe it was in the first chapter.
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The GQ parties.
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Okay.
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So he introduces himself.
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He introduces arbitrage in the introduction and how he then he also introduces his book structure.
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But he talks about arbitrage and
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how like him and his father would buy like old watches and gussy them up and then sell them to somebody who would pay more for the watch.
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And that was his, that is the arbitrage, right?
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To find that hidden value that other people didn't see, right?
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Like, so one man's treasure is another man, or one man's trash is another man's treasure.
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Something along those lines is the best way I can describe it.
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Late night podcast with late night coffee.
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So step one, choose a worthy enemy, right?
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So he goes through and if you don't have an enemy, you just, what are you facing?
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You need something to give you resistance in the world and everyone needs an enemy.
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And inevitably you find an enemy, right?
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Like if you just,
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If you listen to politics all day, eventually it's like, oh, it's the left, oh, it's the right, oh, it's that Trump guy, oh, it's this, it's that.
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And your body automatically makes an enemy.
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So since it's naturally ingrained in you, it's better to pick an enemy and choose one that's worthy.
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Like do not like just pick easy ones because it's easy, right?
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Like you don't want to be that jerk, that bully, because then you become your own enemy, right?
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Like you're just the guy that just picks on everybody, picks on all the easy battles, picks on all the, like, you know,
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It's like, I want to win a fight.
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How do I win a fight?
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Oh, I'm going to pick one with a nine-year-old, like, because I beat up a nine-year-old.
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Like, well, yeah, well, what's the point of the fight then?
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Why did you pick that as an enemy?
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Because you're just being lazy.
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And, you know, you got to pick a worthy enemy.
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And then he kind of like gets to, you know, GQ parties and, let's see here, life's balance.
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He teaches lessons, the theory.
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how love conquers hate.
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He has a lot of quotes and like things in biblical passages he follows.
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So he uses like recent examples of people that he likes, like Dan Crenshaw, right?
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He respects Dan Crenshaw.
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He respects Dr.
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Ben Carson.
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So he references them quite a bit in the book.
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Dan does his foreword.
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So it wasn't his foreword.
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Yeah.
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So Dan does the foreword for the book.
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The, I'm trying to think what, he references George Washington.
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See, I should have done this like last week.
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And Alexander the Great.
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He brings them up quite a bit.
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He brings up a lot of like the art in the front of the book.
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which now everyone's going to yell at me because I don't remember the art in the front of the book.
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It was, they even described it in the book.
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Perfect.
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This is turning out to be, but I also do a lot of stuff unscripted.
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So, you know, that's Kevin for you.
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That's also what the extra text describes.
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It talks about all the different things like the artwork that he does.
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You know, he's a lot of a lot of Greek references.
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just him, it's not Zeus, it's Archimedes or somebody striking down like the Hydra.
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Oh, it's Hercules.
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He's got me.
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I can't retain everything all the time, but.
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He does a lot of these deep references and he just really goes down a deep path on a lot of these different topics.
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And he spent a lot of time doing it.
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Now, are you going to follow him down those paths?
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Maybe.
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Did he go down that path so you don't have to?
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Maybe.
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And that's, you know, it definitely is worth a listen.
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It gives you some perspective.
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He kind of talks about, you know,
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He brings it back to that value that you should be finding in your life.
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And he also brings up a lot of mistakes he had, like, in his, I think I can rule the world and he runs against, he runs, he runs in a congressional race and, he bets everything on it.
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And then there's, like, again, he loses.
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And now he's made to be like a laughingstock.
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And how does he face his wife and kids who he's had to be kind of like on the road away from for like 11 months?
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And it's like, you know, this path that almost led him to a divorce and his reawakening into, you know, the man that he is and the man that he should be.
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And I mean, this book almost conveys his life stories.
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Like, would he do things differently?
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Probably not.
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because it made him the man that he is.
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But hopefully his story can help you become that man now without having to make the same mistakes, right?
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But we all are on a journey and we all have to make our own mistakes.
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So maybe you see his mistakes and you don't make the same ones, but at the same time you are going to make some mistakes and then you are going to have those and those will be part of your autobiography.
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But that said, so step one is picking a worthy enemy.
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And step 2 is to aim high.
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Aiming low is the only sin.
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So, because if you're just like, we just talked about, go beat up a nine-year-old, you have to pick a worthy enemy.
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So he's kind of compounding on his first step, but also giving you a little guidance into the next, right?
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So he gives additional, he talks about Alexander the Great quite a bit in this portion of the book.
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The theory on who are you becoming, the wisest minds, and then your next moves.
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Step 3 is pick a master or one will be thrust upon you.
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So you have to serve something, right?
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Isn't that the old adage?
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And so that's kind of what he's getting at.
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You have to have a master.
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You have to serve something.
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You need a purpose, right?
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So what is your purpose?
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What is it you are serving?
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Or are you just doom scrolling?
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And now you are just a slave.
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to the doom scroll to the algorithm, right?
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Like boom, he talks about that too.
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He talks about getting his life in order, eating healthier.
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He had some health scares.
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He does runs.
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He focuses.
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He needs to get up early.
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The greatest of the greats get up early.
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What does he do?
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He makes those tough decisions.
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He doesn't want to have to like easily hit the snooze button on his alarm.
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So he like puts it on blast like 2 closets away.
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Now, if I tried that,
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I would get up.
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And that's my issue now.
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Like I set an alarm for 4.30.
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I try to do my best to get to 4.30.
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Some days I do it.
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Some days it's like 630.
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And that's the absolute latest that I'll get up.
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But my goal is 4.30 and I have the same problem.
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And I reach over and I'm like, you know what?
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My wife will get ****** and then I'll wait for her to beat me out of bed.
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Like not like race me out of bed, but like, damn it, stop waking me up.
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*** **** you.
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That's how I do it.
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And I know
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I shouldn't.
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And I know that it doesn't happen, that it's exaggerated, but in the back of my head, that is my thought process.
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Like, I'll stay in bed as long as she is not getting angry with me for not getting up.
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And that's kind of like, that's my scapegoat.
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And that's a problem that I have.
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He buries his phone in another room.
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And so he has to actually like shut the damn thing off.
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I know that just the distance between my bed and wherever the hell I have to put my phone so it shuts the hell up.
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will wake my wife up and I'll be in way more trouble.
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And I just couldn't pull it off.
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I would have to like live in a new house, away from my family, which is a responsible adult male.
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That is my responsibility to not live in another house.
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So, but those are the different things he talks about in addition to, so like you have a master that'll be, or one will be thrust upon you.
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Is your master, you know,
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It doesn't have to be a physical, it's not a person, right?
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It is a manifestation of something, some greater purpose that you are serving.
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To some people, it is God, right?
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To some people, it must only be God, right?
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And some people, it is like, well, it is being the greatest father I can be.
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It is to fatherhood that I am, that is my one and only master.
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And then by a byproduct of that, you are an amazing husband and you are this and you are that.
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And there's a subset of like that master's will, right?
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And that's kind of what he's getting into to break it down into a simpler term.
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Because I mean, that's what happens.
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Like if you don't have a focus, if you don't have a goal,
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It's just whatever.
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Like, why would you, like everyone, when you say, and Jordan Peterson brings this up too, like if you ever have phenomenal amounts of freedom, you have these great, you're like, oh, I have the freedom to do whatever I want.
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And then it's like, okay, well, if you could do whatever you want, what would you do?
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And people are like, they have no idea.
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They don't know.
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They don't want all these choices.
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They need some sort of structure, right?
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The same thing with freedom.
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Like people are just like, oh, I'm free.
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I'm free to do whatever I want.
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It's like, we still have a duty though.
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You have a duty to those freedoms.
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You don't like you, don't just get freedom.
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You have a duty to defend it.
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You have a duty to stand up for it.
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You have a duty to, you know, family, God and country.
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Like that's, you don't just get these freedoms.
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You can do whatever you want.
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You can forsake it all, like, because then your freedom is worth nothing.
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And that is,
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another rabbit hole we're going down, but that's, I mean, it is very similar to the topic at hand.
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Step 4, trust, revelation requires sacrifice.
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So, the fast, my seven-day sacrifice, the exam, I was stabbed in the neck, the art of the miracle, a rap moment.
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So he gets an Agamemnon
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the past must be sacrificed.
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Your past must be sacrificed.
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Tainted sacrifices, our rash vows, a bigger problem, my mental fog.
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There's something's got to give.
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Sacrificing 90% of my net worth.
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And he does talk about that quite a bit, is donating
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to charity.
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You can't just give falsely, right?
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Like you just, there's that Christian philosophy that like, you give a man like $10 who is needy for nothing in return.
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And then, God will reward you like tenfold.
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The problem is if you're giving that 10 bucks, no expecting to get it tenfold, then you will never get tenfold.
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You won't even come close.
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You may even be another negative 10.
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Because it's the fact that you're giving it, not expecting it.
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That is the true purpose of the giving.
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And so a lot of people miss that point.
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They're just like, oh, if that's how it works, you just keep giving and giving and giving and eventually you'll get paid forward.
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Sure, and if you can think that way, but to be like also expecting it, like you should do it,
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knowing that someday it may come back to you, but may being a critique, a pivotal point there in our teeter-totter.
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But yeah, let's see here.
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Step 5, no joy, no joy requires pain.
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Like so have knowledge that joy requires pain.
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Okay.
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And then he introduces art, which is in the follow-up and or pictures in the book, if you get the hard copy.
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Yeah, so if you want to get joy, like if you ever listen to anybody talk about marriage, right?
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Everyone's like, oh, marriage is terrible, marriage is terrible.
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Like, no, because you don't understand marriage.
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And then people are like, the people that you talk to that are actually happy, they're like, no, marriage is the best thing ever.
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Marriage is the best thing ever.
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And it's just like kids, raising kids.
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You get people, oh, kids are terrible.
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Like, no, kids are not terrible.
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Kids are the best thing ever, too.
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And so you have these two things that are very great in life, and they all require sacrifice and hardship.
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Marriage isn't easy.
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It is something you have to work at every single day.
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Every single day, you need to work at your marriage.
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And if you don't work at it and you ignore it, falls apart.
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It is like a house.
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It is a house.
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It is both.
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It is both the physical manifestation.
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The house is a physical manifestation of your home, which is brought together.
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It is the physical thing that you live in, right, that you make home, that you nest in.
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But as part of that, you are building that.
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with somebody else that is making that nest so that you can raise your robins in it, so that you can raise them to be good adults in the future.
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But you have to work at that, and you have to work at raising those little robins, and you have to work at this, and you have to work at that, and you have to work at it, you have to work at it.
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And that is painful.
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That is painful.
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It's a struggle, man.
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It's a struggle every single day, day in and day out, day in and day out, day in and day out.
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And
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You can't just look at that and say, I've, no, there's got to be an easier way.
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There isn't.
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There isn't.
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That is a toil that you pick, and in return, you get some of the greatest joy of being a significant other, to being a spouse, to being a husband, to being a wife, to being a father, to being a mother.
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All those things come from that toil day in and day out.
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The sacrifice, the
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I sacrifice time away from my kids so that I can provide them good education, happy Christmases, a roof over their head, heat on cold days, money to repair the roof when it's not around.
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I wish I could
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give back that sacrifice and just have a sack of money, but it doesn't work that way.
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You have to sacrifice that.
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So it is about having a giant pie that you have to divvy your day up into and then still fighting amongst that to allocate time to spend with family, to spend with kids, to spend with your significant other.
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And it is work and it is painful.
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And with joy comes pain.
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And that is what he's getting at with this portion of the step.
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Down to the last four guys.
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Embrace the unknown.
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Trends don't matter.
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How to build a life that matters.
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Tchaikovsky and the Swans.
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He's talking about Swan Lake.
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Love requires vulnerability.
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So with that, like you, with everything in life, there is risk, right?
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You want to start a business.
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It's risk.
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You don't know what's going to happen.
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Well, should I spend my money or should I save it?
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Well, if I spend it, then I won't have it tomorrow to pay a bill that might come up.
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But your fear of not spending that money, scared money don't make money.
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It's a great philosopher once said.
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And if you're not, if you're not,
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If you're not, if you're too afraid to take that risk, that could also be your demise.
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You have to embrace that unknown, that risk, in order to move forward and find greatness, right?
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Like, imagine, imagine like the just the great adventures of the world.
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Magellan, you know, Christopher Columbus, all these people that came to other places, you know, like a lot of people that went alongside of them, along with them, had their own separate journeys.
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didn't make it.
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They died.
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They got killed in the quest for adventure, in the quest for conquering the unknown, for finding the unknown, to explore the unknown.
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And you have to embrace it because otherwise, then what's the point?
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What's the point?
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You got to go forward.
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You can't just sit there and be afraid to go forward because you're afraid of going forward.
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It's not.
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Yeah.
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So embrace the unknown.
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Step 6.
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Step 7,
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give away what you want to keep.
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The problem, relevance and power, Washington and Carson, slamming the tyranny, command unveils character, the law of C.S.
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Lewis, the next move, defriction, safety or meaning, never both.
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So, we've all heard the cliche, if you love something, let it set it free.
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If it comes back to you, hang on and hold it and love it forever.
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Essentially, that's what he's saying.
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Like, don't, and I think I briefly touched on this earlier when I said, like, you'd give away, give away your wealth, give away that, because it will be given back to you.
00:23:24 Kevin
Do not expect it to be given back to you.
00:23:26 Kevin
It may never be given back to you,
00:23:30 Kevin
But you have to strip yourself of these material wants and things like that are holding you back and out of your way.
00:23:39 Kevin
You may want to keep it, you may be impulsified to keep certain things, but just know that is just holding you back from being the person you're supposed to be.
00:23:50 Kevin
Act like you will live forever.
00:23:55 Kevin
The problem, what is a step
00:23:57 Kevin
Historical Einstein's theory, imagining space-time, analogy of the thun, defeated by the story, the greatest duty of any man.
00:24:09 Kevin
I think that was the part that I enjoyed.
00:24:14 Kevin
A real girl's more than a fake father, next moves.
00:24:28 Kevin
So he talks about some real deep topics here in this.
00:24:33 Kevin
And I believe this is the one where he talks about his daughter.
00:24:40 Kevin
Act like you will live forever.
00:24:44 Kevin
So right, like don't just sit there and be fearful about moving forward and dying and things like that.
00:24:49 Kevin
But he also describes being a father in this one.
00:24:54 Kevin
Bent knees, remake bent hearts.
00:25:05 Kevin
So I screenshotted a bunch of quotes that I really enjoyed from this.
00:25:23 Kevin
Okay.
00:25:26 Kevin
This is at the beginning of the book, though.
00:25:27 Kevin
So this is 1 where he describes, so I've got an excerpt here.
00:25:41 Kevin
Only a weak man cannot hate.
00:25:44 Kevin
He, therefore, can never really love.
00:25:48 Kevin
Sometimes our enemies are easy to identify, like that father defending his daughter.
00:25:54 Kevin
But more often, enemies hide beneath the surface like a tumor.
00:25:58 Kevin
The deepest foes are often a piece of us.
00:26:03 Kevin
Like my fear of rejection in college to ask that freshman girl out or our fears to make us miss out on life and love.
00:26:12 Kevin
So now, okay, so that's page 28.
00:26:15 Kevin
Okay, so he describes
00:26:19 Kevin
A father.
00:26:31 Kevin
This love is motivated.
00:26:38 Kevin
Okay.
00:26:40 Kevin
There was a great example he gave in this book.
00:26:44 Kevin
And now I'm drawing a blanket where it was.
00:26:51 Kevin
He, there's a man that murdered somebody to protect his daughter.
00:26:59 Kevin
He was found guilty.
00:27:01 Kevin
And he goes, if I was that father, I'd have done the same thing.
00:27:04 Kevin
And if you are a father out there, you should be accepting of that, right?
00:27:10 Kevin
Like, how can you, as a father, not do, and I'm sure a lot of us have heard these stories, right?
00:27:16 Kevin
Like, there's a guy running for county sheriff in Virginia.
00:27:20 Kevin
I believe it's Virginia, Virginia, Tennessee, Kentucky, something like that.
00:27:25 Kevin
He was all over the news a couple months ago, and he
00:27:29 Kevin
followed this guy who had molested his daughter, and he went and got his daughter back, and then he murdered the guy.
00:27:39 Kevin
And because in the law did nothing.
00:27:42 Kevin
And sometimes you have to remember that, you know, what's more important to you, right?
00:27:49 Kevin
Like your daughter or making sure that you don't violate some man given law, right?
00:27:54 Kevin
Like, and that's
00:27:57 Kevin
And he justifies that in here, and I don't blame him for justifying that, and I can't disagree with him that if somebody were doing something terrible to one of my children, that I wouldn't do the same thing that this father he describes in the book does.
00:28:11 Kevin
And I mean, he doesn't describe it in great detail.
00:28:13 Kevin
I don't believe I can't remember.
00:28:15 Kevin
I knew that.
00:28:17 Kevin
See, that's why I took a lot of these different portions from the book.
00:28:28 Kevin
Yeah.
00:28:32 Kevin
Anyways, there's a...
00:28:43 Kevin
He took this portion from the book and he did a...
00:28:46 Kevin
I'm sorry.
00:28:52 Kevin
Yeah, anyways, it was a great...
00:28:59 Kevin
It was just, it was just something that like you just, you hear about and nobody ever really speaks about.
00:29:03 Kevin
They don't say, hey, I should, I would do the same thing.
00:29:06 Kevin
It's always like, oh, that's tragic, that's terrible that father did that.
00:29:10 Kevin
Like, no, it's terrible that we let child molesters on the loose.
00:29:14 Kevin
We let, it's terrible that we let all these things happen.
00:29:17 Kevin
And that there's not enough true men out there that were willing to go defend their children and go enact justice, right?
00:29:25 Kevin
And
00:29:27 Kevin
There sometimes is a fine line, and we've described it maybe on the channel, but sometimes you have to do certain things.
00:29:38 Kevin
There are, what is it, the Cain and Abel story, right?
00:29:40 Kevin
Like you, like if all the descendants of 1 were going to exact justice, then you get blood libels.
00:29:48 Kevin
And to prevent that, the justice system comes in order.
00:29:51 Kevin
And that is like, you know, God has marked Abel for killing Cain.
00:29:56 Kevin
or Cain for killing Abel.
00:29:57 Kevin
And so he's a marked man.
00:29:59 Kevin
So you shall not touch him because he's already being punished, right?
00:30:03 Kevin
So that kind of takes the part out where he is, you get a feud, right?
00:30:13 Kevin
You get that blood libel that goes for generations, right?
00:30:17 Kevin
That kind of puts an end to it because like, listen, as a third party is stepping in to handle this.
00:30:22 Kevin
And sometimes you get to that borderline where it's like, that thing is our system of laws and justice.
00:30:29 Kevin
And when it fails, the only thing that remains is still to do that which is right, which is to seek justice.
00:30:36 Kevin
And so he kind of opens the door a little bit to that in this book.
00:30:42 Kevin
So, Act Clink You'll Live Forever.
00:30:51 Kevin
And then step 9, seek beauty and you may find truth.
00:30:57 Kevin
And then he talks about all, I was blind, now I see, sometimes I wander.
00:31:04 Kevin
Sometimes wandering is prayer.
00:31:07 Kevin
What is maximal love?
00:31:11 Kevin
A magical living canvas.
00:31:14 Kevin
He talks about Rembrandt, love and virtue, financial evolution, what are your next moves?
00:31:21 Kevin
And he describes his family.
00:31:29 Kevin
Epilogue.
00:31:33 Kevin
He does an epilogue.
00:31:36 Kevin
Alexander in Samaria.
00:31:38 Kevin
He does exclusive bonuses, acknowledgments, and then his end credits.
00:31:43 Kevin
But yeah, there was just a lot of just different quotes throughout the book.
00:31:47 Kevin
What looks beautiful, really beautiful, is also right, which is Vincent Van Gogh, a quote from him.
00:31:55 Kevin
However, just as a single color painted is not beautiful, a perfect risk-free life can never be powerful.
00:32:02 Kevin
I believe that's a quote from him.
00:32:04 Kevin
And I just took, there was just tons of it when I was listening to it the first time, just took screenshots on my phone just so I had it.
00:32:13 Kevin
Why am I threatened by powerless people that I will never meet?
00:32:19 Kevin
But no, there's always greater to make your enemies willing
00:32:24 Kevin
Willingly fight you for, willingly fight for you than to destroy them in the Machiavellian and Machiavellian and Sun Tzu sense.
00:32:38 Kevin
Just victory arises through loss.
00:32:44 Kevin
Just tons of great lines in this.
00:32:48 Kevin
He spent a lot of time on this, years, I believe, writing this book.
00:32:53 Kevin
and reflection and just time.
00:32:55 Kevin
And books are a lot of work.
00:32:57 Kevin
But getting to actually meet Rick was just a good, was an all-around good experience, just an insight into the mind that wrote the book after you read it, you know, and then going through and then like actually getting to ask him questions and stuff like that.
00:33:13 Kevin
So I highly recommend listening to the book, coming back, listening to this podcast and be like, Kevin,
00:33:18 Kevin
You're not even doing it justice.
00:33:20 Kevin
And then going and listening to the interview where it was still fresh in my mind and I still just did it.
00:33:25 Kevin
I got through it or almost through it to do the interview with Rick and have questions for him and having all that fresh in my mind.
00:33:33 Kevin
So highly recommended.
00:33:35 Kevin
Go out there, get a copy of the book.
00:33:38 Kevin
It's at Rick.
00:33:38 Kevin
You can find it at rickwalker.com.
00:33:40 Kevin
You can find it on Amazon.
00:33:41 Kevin
You can find it on Audible.
00:33:43 Kevin
And pretty much anywhere books are sold, I believe.
00:33:45 Kevin
So with that, guys, we'll catch you tomorrow on Life 22.